OK, so there are a couple of people I need to... ditch. Sound terrible? Probably. But, it's just not me. Others, well, I have made some new friends which are great! And then there is the in-between... just need some space.
Right now... I'm dealing with one in particular. This seems like a great person. Buuuuuuuuuut.... Now I'm super annoyed... and actually pi$$ed! And, that... is weird for me to have these feelings outside of my sitch!
So that guy a few weeks ago... the one who showed up late after a night of drinking... the married one. Ugh. He's gotta go.
After that, he did apologize. And, I accepted it and moved on like normal. Didn't forget it, but acted like before the incident. Oh, and I wanna say, that night, he texted me when he got home and said some crazy things... I shut it down, and he said "I'm sorry you're not attracted to me." Since then, things have been OK. I guess when I get super uncomfortable, I just play things off with a joke. And honestly, I've never really been in a position to have to aggressively ward someone off! I mean, I don't give off the vibe like I'm about that.. so, you'd think that'd be enough!
Anyway, he texts me a couple of times a week. I don't always respond, but when I do, it's just joking and nothing big. And not much.
However, he has put it out there like... needy. Like he knows I don't want him, but plays games like he wants me to fall for it or something. Stroke his ego... I don't know... it's weird. And I have NEVER responded to that.
Friday he got a little grabby with me. But was like, "Oh, sorry." right after. I walked away.
Friday night, he texted me when i was going out with my friends. My friends are also friends w him. So, I just responded a little bit later that I was out with them... hoping he would stop.
I didn't check my phone for awhile, until I wanted to see if my kids were looking for me or anything. You know, only parent on duty 24/7. And he had texted something about coming to see us out. I didn't respond. I just feel like what the heck... we aren't even that close. I'm out. Leave me alone!
So then, as I was standing with my guy friend, I saw I had 2 more missed texts from him. My guy friend asked what he wanted. And checked his phone to see if he had texted him to come out. He hadn't. My friend was like WTF? He knew we were together.
So, this is what I get from this guy at this point ( I still hadn't responded about him coming out):
-No worries. Next time.
Then,
-That's like shooting fish in a barrel
After I saw them, I was like, "What?" I just didn't get it. I probably should have even said that, but I'd had a couple at that point. And was super annoyed.
Then, "I was going to stop down but I didn't want to interrupt."
Then, "I'll chill its all good."
Ugh. Who are you and wtf do you want? I mean, seriously. Whatever. Ignored.
Next morning, he's calling my phone. OK, not answering that one. He left a voicemail. Didn't even listen to it. In fact I never listen to voicemail. It's usually full. I just deleted messages this week to make room in case kids school call. They are the only messages I listen to. I hardly check email too. Been like that since bomb. Hey, I'm telling ya.... plate full.
So, put it out of my mind for the day. Yesterday evening I got some stupid text from him that there was some guy at a restaurant waiting for me. Like he was trying to be funny. And he is always making really dumb jokes like that. Which, I've always just humored, but not really got into. In fact, I don't think he is funny at all. Just weird. But, this is becoming increasingly clear to me.
Actually.... here are the text exchanges:
Guy: I ran into some guy at xxx looking for you. He had 2 chocolate shakes and smothered fries.... odd?
Me (a little while later and annoyed): That's weird.
Guy: Did you listen to your voicemail?
Me: No. I don't listen to voicemail.
Guy: Well do it! I gave that guy your # and he called u today.
Me: No way
Guy: For real listen to your vm
Me: Nope. With my kids. (Two finger "Peace" emoji)
Guy: Interesting
OK. I WAS SO ANNOYED! Maybe overreacting... but wtf is he to tell me what to do? I'm not listening to my damn voicemail if I don't want to!
And, the night before, he made me feel like I needed to answer to him! What is that? And, what ever gave him that idea?
Then, to say, "interesting" like I am doing something wrong by not doing what he said to do?
And he wants me to coddle him? Beg him to come hang out or something? F that! Go away!
Go talk to your wife! The one fighting cancer, you friggin a$$hat!
Like, seriously. He crossed a line with me. I don't have to answer to him. I didn't want to hang out with him.
And, I've also learned something about these guys, previous to this weekend from his actions. These guys don't give a f about who they want to bang while cheating on their wives. He doesn't want a r with me, he wants to bang me. (Sorry for being crass). Then go home to his wife and kids. HE'S GOT THE WRONG ONE!
I am sure I haven't given the impression I'm not that kind of girl. If so, I will be sure to make it clear that I'm not. But, I think he saw me vulnerable and tried to take advantage.
Anyway... sorry to vent. I just was so put off by the fact that he thinks I would waste one second explaining myself or answering to him or... whatever.
And, I didn't want to listen to his dumb message where he sounds like an idiot pretending to be some derelict who wants to buy me smothered fries. He's not funny. Stupid.
