Rysinmans climb after WAW! #2

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Agree that the sex thing is a very tough one.
I'm still very attracted to my wife too. Doesn't make it easy. And it's pretty common for people to have some sort of breakup sex. But it usually is what the name is saying: 'breakup' sex. It's the most convenient form of taking care of sexual desires. Plus it's something we 'can't really have' so it's appealing.

Let's just say it like that: it's most likely not too good to give in on it and better to say no, especially if there's s a slightest chance of reconciliation. It would "ruin" the 'reconciliation-sex'. On the other hand if done right it might not change the outcome at all (maybe wishful thinking bc we just want it so bad). But if you can't say no and end up doing it, you better make sure you 'do it right', which means, go back after to as if it never ever happened!? Most likely WAS will think after it was a mistake because it eventually hurt the other person and they might regret it. So you gotta really be careful not to get emotional during and after.
Complicated. If you simply don't do it, it doesn't have the chance to get complicated. Not an easy task for us men.
If my W would've initiated sth today I probably would've went for it with no hesitation lol, knowing it's probably not smart.
So what to do to prevent it? And what to do if we weren't able to? Is there anyone here that has experienced this issue?