totally get what you mean. I would have to seriously think long and hard if my wife wanted to R now. The mountain to climb for both of us looks impossible at the moment. Im under no illusions though as I don't believe my wife has any intent currently to want to R and to be honest the way I feel neither do I. that may change though who knows. Good stuff on no checking up on wife. The feeling to do so will still be there but it helps you detach in not doing so. D is definitely detrimental to your kids but this is not in your control. You didn't want to separate I presume? I certainly didn't but I was left with no choice. These are the cards we have been dealt and this is the hand we have to play. I think long and hard about wanting my wife back but it isn't my wife of the last few years I want back, its the memories of my wife from earlier happier times I want. For men a lot of it is getting over your ego and pride that another man has taken "your" woman. Its up to you what point you think you need to just move on. Completely let go. Ive seen some stand for a very long time. To me it is a limbo existence. I have already lived like that for a very long time. Scared about losing my wife. Truth is that I had already lost her. I just didn't know it. When I stopped being afraid I started to move on and feel better. your life is not defined by your wife. She is just a part of it. How will she be part of it in the future you are not to know.
Just be the best dad you can be. Life carries on.
Me:40 W:35 D:8 T:13 M:10 WAW: 7/14 PA Discovered: 1/15 at least 6 months Moved out and moved on
