Peter, I was sorry to read your post. It sounds like you are in a pretty miserable place at the moment, and it reminded me of this time last year, when H said he had ended his EA, but it had become a PA and I didn't know.

I think OTU is right, and you are back to DB 101 basics. Your W isn't at the point of fully recommitting to the M and offering full transparency. That's not something you can control. But you can of course decide what is the bottom line for you. What can you live with and what can't you live with?

Take care and keep posting my friend.

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus