I'm going to do my best to treat this as a business deal. As if I'm flipping a house with a business partner. I know I have to detach more. In the past, she would pull me back with a look, a hug, or brushing against me. She would always lay on my chest and talk to me at night. That made it near impossible. AT least that will not be able to happen now.
Since Friday, I feel different. Before Friday, I thought I could see a shadow of the girl I feel in love with. I thought she was confused and torn between me and OM. I was stupid. After Friday, I know I can't believe a word she says. I know she doesn't feel anything for me. Boundaries are a joke to her.
If she helps me get the house sold..great. If she does not, I'll figure something out. I can do this. I can treat her like a neighbor.
I was reading in another thread. Sandi2 posted that the STBX needs to be dumped. She's already dumped me, but I feel like I'm dumping her.
Closer2,
Again, thank you for posting in my thread. I haven't gone thru your entire thread but I started at the very beginning and have read most of your posts and some of the replies.
Presuming my WAW does not change her mind about the D, we will nost likely have to sell our house, too. It's so sad as she is very creative, it has her personality written all over it.
Please, do not refer to yourself as "stupid." Most of us, whether there is another person involved or not get mixed messages from our leaving spouse. I have fallen for it, too.
You are on the right track by thinking of this as a business deal. I believe thinking of her as a neighbor or co-worker, etc. will be a good step in moving forward. I know...it's very hard to do but you seem like the type of guy who can do it!
Take care,
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
