Another WW/WAW, Need Guidance

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My take on it. First, it is not too late to define boundaries regarding who is around your kids. They are your kids and you absolutely have a say so as to who is around them. Often times in divorces there are 'no sleep over rules' worked in. In other words, a parent cannot have a sleep over with a member of the opposite sex while the kids are around. Whether or not that is court mandated or mutually agreed upon I cannot say. But it is a sound rule because it reduces confusion amongst the kids.

Second, it is your home. You absolutely have a right to decide who goes in. I would not let OM into my home while I was away so my W could move out. Why expose yourself to some other guy going through your stuff? It may be her home as well, but that does not mean you do not have rights as well. Will it make things rocky if you object to him being in your home? Sure. Will it inconvenience her if she has to find someone else to help her move? Probably. But this guy has already taken enough from you, why give him access to your home and children?