Continuing DBing

[PeterV2]

I'm not looking to force reconciliation. All I'm saying is that there'll come a time when I state my boundaries again:

I will be with someone I can trust, who will show affection toward me and share my bed, who is willing to work through problems and is committed to our relationship. Maybe you can be that person, maybe you can't. But I won't wait forever for you to decide.

She went out to a function last night. Apparently to watch a dance competition with a girlfriend. I sent her a text to take some pics so I can see the costumes. Said she couldn't take pics - not allowed. I asked where she was staying. She replied with her girlfriend - don't worry - no men. I replied that I worry, a maybe-too-vivid imagination and trust issues. She said she'll call me in the morning. It's noon now. No call. She's apparently out dress shopping again for the wedding. Maybe she's being honest. Maybe not.

There was nothing on the internet about this dance competition - I would think an event like that would have some sort of web coverage.

I feel like confronting her on this stuff, but that's applying pressure, which I said I would refrain from.

Maybe I'll just stay out all night and not tell her where I am. But that seems like tit for tat and I don't want to really play that game.

"I think we both want the same thing, which is to work through this together. It'll be really important in helping ease my fears and building trust if I'm able to check up on you from time to time. What do you think about that?"

I know what she'd say: I need space to find myself without you pressuring me as to my whereabouts." or "what about my fears and trust issues?" She has a way of twisting things around to her issues and sweeping mine under the rug.