When she stops by does she come in to the house at all, or just meets you at the door?

This may be stupid and against DB, not sure- vets, can you chime in?

Would it be a bad idea to move things around inside the house, repaint, or do something else to make it "your space"?

I just think that if you keep the place exactly how you left it, that symbolizes that everything will be preserved awaiting her return if she has a change of heart.

On the other hand if you take this opportunity to say "ok, you're not here anymore...I guess if it's up to me I'll set things up how I like then" and start turning the place into a man lair, that might be a little more of a reality check that you're not waiting for her forever. She might feel "hey, that's my place!" In my case since I moved out my DB Coach advised me to get an apartment right away so it didn't appear I was "pressed up to the window looking in and hoping to be invited back".

This would be particularly true if you WERE moving on. And changing things up in the house might actually HELP you to feel differently. You know, a fresh start.

What will you do with the freedom you now have? If you knew your WAW was never returning, what changes would you make around the house?

Last edited by Zues126; 04/19/15 03:01 PM.
Me:38 XW:38
T:11 years M:8 years
Kids: S14, D11, D7
BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15