Anger that's perpetual is often a means of control. I'd guess during your M when she got angry you'd change your behavior to try to make her feel happy again.
Well, now she's looking at her plans to the future and after speaking to a L she realizes she needs you to agree to her terms for her to get what she wants. Some would think that she would be treating you nicely then to keep it friendly, but she is doing what always worked before: putting you in your place.
Yes, many of us have been here before. I've gone through 4 spew jackets since BD. The trick is not to let it impact your behavior or you'll only encourage it.
I would set strong, strong, strong boundaries.
Also- I would take STRONG independent action with your own lawyer. Do not be passive. Not only do you protect yourself, but you don't want to appear to be clinging to the M with both hands kicking and screaming. The message should be "No, W, this is not what I wanted for our family. But I accept you've made this decision. You can leave if you'd like, however I am not going to stand by and be disrespected or taken advantage of legally however."
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
