Help! She filed taxes last week and told me we'd be getting $2100 back. Just got the return today. Called h and r block and they verified $2100 went into our account and $1000 went into her separate checking account. She lied and hid it from me. We currently live together but sleep in sepearate rooms. Not sure what to do. Need to talk with her but not sure how. I guess I can tell her I don't care she wanted the money and not ask what it's for. Clearly she doesn't trust me and I guess I need to tell her she should have her own account and she can have the money. But lying and hiding things is unacceptable or the way I would want any relationship wih her to be. If she feels she needs that for security, piece of mind or not to feel stuck, I'll trust her and she should have it. That really would be a 180 for me because normally I'd cut her off. I'll tell her if there's anything she would want or need from me so she feels she can trust me to let me know because I want to accomedate that. If she wants to leave she's going to leave but maybe she hasn't made her mind up and my reaction could cause her to look at stayin more because she starts to feel safe. Thoughts?
Last edited by Ripken8; 04/19/1501:42 AM.
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23
