Yea, you are definitely not ready to co-mingle with members of the opposite sex. Politely decline but jokingly suggest she keep you in mind for future events. No point in burning bridges right?
As for FB...dealers choice on that one. You are right, fb means a lot more to a 26 year old than it does to a 39 year old. I am 41 and my W is 31. So we share some similarities in the age/culture differences you and I. What I did when my S started is I blocked her from my FB. I was not a heavy fb user like she was, but I did post kid pictures and pictures when we went places. I occasionally kept up with old friends as well. I blocked her and never once looked at her page again. Its been almost a year. In fact, I actually deactivated my fb account in December. I dont miss it. I do not know what state you are in or what D laws are, but there could be an advantage to keeping access to her fb page if she is one to post party pictures, or drinking pictures, or even OM pictures. Just food for thought.
I get where you are coming from with the belief that one day she will miss the good times. And if you had a decent marriage most of the time, then yea, she most likely will. But it wont happen any time soon so that line of thinking is pointless. Spend your mental energy on improving you and GAL activities.
And Cadet is right, maybe she knows you do not want a divorce and feels secure in her actions. But be careful about using D as a tool because it can backfire on you, or force you to put the D into motion before it really has to.
Keep your chin up buddy. It gets easier with each passing day.
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
