Getting back to me

[Vanilla]

Msd

Which boundary would you like to tackle first?

Can you ask H to move out instead so you stay in your home. Would you prefer to move?

You can certainly say no OW comes to your home and if she does you will discuss the appropriateness of her professional behaviour, which you can do by letter or email. A simple request can do it. I said this by text to my H because he rants and OW stopped coming to my home. You could even try turning up at her home and even waving when picking up your D. Frankly though get lost to OW is best.

Your H works in a religious school? There may be religious counsellors there to discuss the issues with. Is that worth considering?

You can also say no calls or texts etc to H with OW. He leaves his phone in his car. Can you name OW and H in your D? Another matter to discuss on Monday with L.

These are clear boundaries, the Jewish faith is strong on family and respect. This is to enforce your boundaries not for revenge. If they back off then no need to enforce, your boundary, but you have to be prepared to do so.

V