New Here Need advice to get started

[Joe46]

Hello AHW!! I'm sorry you are here but this is the best place for you to be right now.

I can relate to ALOT of things in your situation. If you get a chance, read threw my posts. You will see when i first came here, I was scared like alot of people. But like you I also kept my wife's issue a secret. The people here finally got it out of me. What a relief it was that someone besides me knew what I was dealing with now. I had no one to talk to before I came here. I actually got booted from another forum for talking about what my wife was doing. But now I am glad I did. These people here have helped me in so many ways. I am a better person today because of the tools they gave me and the help they gave me.

I can see that you are starting to enforce a few boundaries already. That is good. Boundaries are something I have to work on still, but I am getting better. I am in no way a vet, but I also am dealing with some similar things.

I see you are reading DR. Great! It helped me a ton! There is a section in there that deals with internet things also.

The links Cadet posted helped me a great deal. I still reread them when I have tough days. I agree with what Old Dog said also about the thread Newcomer LBH with a wayward wife. You could pick up ALOT from it also. The best advice I got here was DETACH. It took me awhile to really understand what that meant. But once I started figuring it out,

We are all here for you! I will check back in while, gotta feed the kids