Yup, they know if you're balls are gone. They have a sixth sense. Boundaries are laughed at unless you balls. She'll know you've been reading self help books while she's been boning the OM.
You have to be like Swazye in Roadhouse, this is a time not to be nice.
I was nice. Three times I was nice. Three times too many.
Today, I put STBX's clothes, jewelry, etc. on the front porch in black trash bags. I'll put them back inside with a court order.
Boundaries a joke if you don't enforce them. Anything you say they laugh at. They fired you and don't respect you. You don't need their respect, you need them out of your life. You don't let your friends crap all over you.
It [censored], you loved this person once. You may still. Just don't assume they give a flying eff about you because they don't. She may say she cares for you, loves you, but she doesn't. Stop listening, stop talking, protect yourself with action. Remove the threat.
M:42 W:43 T:14 M:10 S:9 D:5 W filed 12/22/14 EA 12/31/14 PA 4/10/15 D final 5/13/15