Thanks Vanilla. I am studying your post. Bad news I did have sex with him--stupid I know. Not sure what he is thinking guess I'm just lonely and it's not like I really didnt't want sex. The only good thing is I know it really got to the OW.
Funny, to call it cheating since they got together on a cheater's website. She is married but lives in a different state from her H. They have an open marriage. My H has already cheated on the OW with a college student. Also sexts with a 22 yo med student. He feels bad about "cheating" on her
No i don't want an open marriage. About 10 days ago I did all the stupid stuff showed him the early years pics and asked him if after 22 years of marriage he wouldnt be willing to give it 6 months and really try then if it didnt work we'd know we did anything Said I'd be willing to let him occasionally do the Dom/Sub thing with her if he needed that outlet as long as I was there. He got really excited thinking he would get two women and we would get together. He pitched it to her and she said no way.
He makes attempts to rekindle sex with me but feels guilty about her and says he's not going to let me screw up his abilitly to get an erection again etc. but truth is he couldnt get an erection unless doing something more and more out there to feed his addiction
Rationally I know that things probably wont work out with her she has no idea how really screwed up he is, but it hurts that he compromises with her and sets boundaries and is romantic and loving to her and trying not to cheat. All the things he refused to do for me. She is an assistant college professor with a degree in counseling and adolescent therapist so she is really good at talking to him and of course there is no history or stress or drama so I always come out looking inferior even when i say exactly the same thing
i am trying to make stronger boundaries. My goal is to wait until my daughter gets through with exams in mid may and then push him to move out. I know this will accelerate issues with OW as kids will know as well as others
