I've actively tried to get intel and have been getting stonewalled by mutual friends who know what our situation is. The main one divorced her H without an A and keeps telling my W how happy she is. She is a friend and supports us both (or so it seems), but she could just be covering up for my W.
I'm really tired of thinking about it. I've held strong about not iniating any contact. I can already tell W is wondering WTH. Today she sent a picture of the kids and said she would have them call me. They did, and it made me so happy. I just texted W and said Thank you! Made my day, and left it at that. The last time I pulled way back, she drew closer. Most likely giving me breadcrumbs. Now that I understand this dynamic better, I'll be much more wary in the future.
As for now, I've been keeping busy at work and not thinking about her. I can't control her or her actions, but I can control my own. It mostly bothers me that I haven't seen any of the traits of other WW's. She is still a great Mom, doesn't go out much, and not out late and has never been hostile or abusive. Time will tell. My intel attempts have been unproductive. For now... I'm just going to keep on keepin on.
M: 8 years, together 9 M: 41 W: 32 D 4, S 6 ILYBINILWY 2/10/15 2/14/15-2/22/15 Left home 4/5/15 Suspect A, Initiated Sandi's advice from WW thread 4/19/15 W asked for D
