Wii: I don't like what I'm reading here. You both made mistakes. You admitted that. You were interested in her & despite many warning signs (I saw them & repeatedly mentioned them) you chose to persist & pursue. Yes - she sent you some mixed messages but all along - I think she wanted a friend.
She withheld information and that was wrong. But it was also her prerogative. Did she cheat? I don't think so. Did she lie? Perhaps by omission. But I think that's all she did.
She had much more to lose than ou. And she lost it. Her church. Her group of friends. I think that is sad.
She is an Adventist by culture more than by choice. You have chosen that religion but it is not your culture. You can't change someone's culture.
It's your choice how you proceed and what your religion is just as we can choose our friends. But your dating experience within that culture has been a real roller coaster for you.
I honestly think your psychologist was telling you what you wanted to hear. As always - I'm pretty blunt. But I feel sorry for her as well as for you.
I just hate to see you repeat the same patterns that didn't work for you in the past.
