My husband was never married. No children. He had a long term girlfriend that wanted to get married and have children. He broke it off with her because he does not want to have kids. Perfect I thought. No baggage, no exes, no kids. How wrong I was. He became like my third child that I had to take care of.
I guess he did have some then.
Originally Posted By: Diana45
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Yes I know he has had a troubled life. His father died when he was 9. I think (arm chair psychologist) that caused a lot of abandonment issues. I know hoe hard it was for me to loose my father at 32. I never wanted to fix him, but I always tried to comfort him. I will let him be.
Yes I think his father dying may be what he needs to resolve. You can NOT help him do that. HE needs to resolve it. If he starts acting like a 9 or 10 year old then you know that he has gone back in time to work on this issue. I see it happen here all the time.
So how long do you think it takes for a 9 year old to grow up?
