Getting back to me

[mustardseed]

Thank you V. I don't know what to do today. Ow d is coming over. I have no idea what h's plans are. I have work to do and dont feel like driving out to my parents. I was going to take d out there yesterday until she made these plans. Her friendship with this girl has never been this close before. In the 10 years they have known each other this girl has been to our house maybe 4 times. And my d has never gone to hers until ow family affair that was meant to include h. I don't know how to handle this situation. I won't say no to d. But I feel like I'm being played. I just went back and reread my threads from the beginning. I wish I just let go back then. i wish I never gave in to h's affection and believed things were getting better. I wish I never stopped DBing.

So what is the DB way to handle this. Not be around while ow's d is here and have him deal with it? I just have so much to do and I don't want to leave the kids the this weekend since I wasn't with them last weekend. Or stick around get my work done and keep up a pma? I feel like I want to just ruin his plans. Make things awkward for him. But part of me wonders how much of this is tgere doing to make it awkward for me. He wants to get out of paying child support. My L told me 25% of his salary was standard but his L must have told him something different. He told me he told his L how I was ambushing him in front of the kids every morning. I always bring things up when the kids aren't around but his double talk and avoidance usually drags things out until they are eavesdropping. I'm not going to get any answers. I have no control over anything that is happening anymore, and I don't know where my boundaries should be with this.