" Ive gotta wash that man right outta my ...." I think the song goes something like that. Cleaning is very therapeutic! Sometimes it feels like taking control.
Nice when the friends step up and help! Sharing the burden is brilliant, and being practically busy I think helps with detachment.
Not sure what "stupid ideas" are, should we worry?
If his things and animals are causing you upset and distress is there a friend that you could pass them to, so they cam drop them off to H? Or do want to hold on to them in the hope of contact with H?