My experience with it is from the children's perspective. My parents got divorced when I was 14. I remember them sitting us down and telling us. I was in shock. We spent several months in counseling. Our sessions consisted of everyone asking me why I don't talk about how I was feeling about the divorce. Than I was treated terribly by my mother, partly because I was not dealing with it well and I think the other part was she saw my dad in me. She was hurt bad by the divorce. Found out later on Dad had a girlfriend. I was booted from mom's house and sent to live with dad and girlfriend and girlfriends son. I became the live in babysitter so dad and GF could go out. I basically felt like I did not belong anywhere. Moved out on my own at 17. Never finished school. Found alcohol!! The drinking numbed my pain inside. From age 17 to 25 became a alcoholic. Found AA at age 25 and have not had a drink since.
My younger sister is still REALLY messed up. Has been ever since she discovered alcohol also.
I have also seen the pain of my step kids! I think it was easier for me to relate to what they went through from my experience.
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
