Good explanation. But what's your approach in this? We don't want to cause guilt feelings, it's not useful for our cause. Neither do we want to comfort them ... So what do you do in this case? This is a BIG question IMO. Especially when the end is near. With what impression and feelings should a WAS leave the M?
Your approach is the same as it's been -- her comments shouldn't affect it one whit, in one direction or another. If you want to SAY something to statements like those, just say "Yes, I do realize I'll be fine now whatever happens. Not what I would have wanted, but I'll be fine."
