Plus she still seems to be in love with OM, although they are not talking. In her anger she told me something very hurting, which I told her after too that saying stuff like this is hurtingand she apologized afterwards. "I care about OM and I always will, I know him much longer than I know you". I am mentioning this because this fact is unacceptable for me in a M. As long as she feels that way, there won't be a R, ever.
Then you have your answer: the way you're feeling is healthy for now, because she's nowhere near ready anyway. That's what I was hinting at.
