This is so hard. I have stopped texting so they would not be forwarded and generally asks if he is alone before i will talk to him on the phone. Have not talked about the OW since Tues although he was out of town much of the week. I got a little bit irritated tonight because he was late coming home for dinner then late picking up our son and went to the wrong place. Says he is distracted by issues with his parents who have dementia.
Seems to me like he is distracted because he is constantly texting even takes phone to bathroom. I finally said can you put the phone down for 5 minutes so we can talk
he did but not before finishing his text. I told him that he led me to believe he wanted us to work on a friendship and attempt to stay together for 2 years until boys went to college. I said I am evaluating that but if you want to do that you have to make more of an effort to continue our normal family life, dinner as a family, keeping committments and some time being my friend or you might as well leave. He said he was trying to do that and hadn't mentioned OW all week (which really means since Tues)
i also said if you want to be my friend then you need to put the phone away when you are spending time with me and stop the constant texting because it is rude and disrespectful and hurtful. I can't stop you but i will walk away.
he said he would try then picked up his phone. So i left. Oh and he made sure to let me know that OW is still in the picture and he would be wanting to spend time witih her on Sunday
i'm sure my kids suspect something is wrong but they do not know. We were trying to keep things semi-stable while we got them in some counseling for drinking and behavior issues and to let my daughter get through exams at college
is this a mistake should i ask him to move up to the cabin? Also he won a trip to Napa next week. We still plan to go even though I volunteered to back out even suggested he take the OW . He said he wanted me to go and I know he doesnt want to show up at a work function with a mistress. I thought it would be good time away from her and i know she is bothered by us getting close and has asked him about sex etc. Now I just don't know........
