New to this. Need support. Separated.

[Pyrite]

Sorry about your situation. Really I can only offer support. I am not experienced enough to offer you any advice you should really consider

I am struggling. This is more than physical betrayal this is a disrespect that just leaves me breathless and humiliated.

I know this one all too well. I was just coming to terms with the personal hurt when I was clobbered with this. You just don't treat another human being like this I thought. Let alone the person you love/loved. It made me feel worthless.

i wish i took notes to share about how i got passed this. I do remember that support from friends and family was a big factor. basically "you have every right to feel hurt", his/her actions are disrespectful etc. So, it is humiliating, but humiliating in front of who, if people recognise he is the one out of control and doing stupid things. Maybe your "boundaries" should include that your feeling of self worth are out of reach to his actions.

sounds like you are dealing with a bunch of people you can't control. it sounds like the woman who tries to get between Rs, would lose interest if it was obvious her there was no R to penetrate. ? also sounds like H has a lot to deal with himself to come back down to earth. Take care of you.