Complex #7 - the green(-card) mile

[Complex]

25yr. The difference is this: she had an A while we still had a R. Then she moved our R to plain paperwork that has to be finished to finalize our breakup.

I'm not complaining about she having feelings for OM. I absolutely agree it's hypocritical to say something like that. I just said as long as that is the case I could never start piecing. Neither would I if I'd have ANY sort of entanglement with another woman. I'm not dating, I told OW the truth about my circumstances. And we just hung out a couple of times. I don't see why this is hypocritical. My R is officially over, only paperwork left. W even tries to encourage me to get a girlfriend lol. Of course probably so she would feel better. I did not tell her, if she's going to ask, I won't lie that I went out with someone. But it's none of her concern right now. Because THAT would be hypocritical.
Please feel free to criticize me if I'm completely wrong here. I get that it is better to wait and have a real R when I feel like I'm ready for it. But I'm playing with open cards and do this for myself, the experience of moving on, etc.
edit: it's funny how I even catch myself validating my own actions so I feel better about it tho. I do not want to miss this feeling tho. I'm very reflective. It shows me very close what my W went through and gives me better understanding