What do you hope to accomplish by confronting this woman? Do you think it will bring you closer to your goal of rebuilding a relationship with your H?

I know it is tough and you want answers to everything. This is why detaching is so important. You know your H is having an A. That is all you need to know. Seeking out all the details is going to make your life much more difficult, as well as push your H further away.

People like this other woman are out there, and they are trashy. They thrive off causing trouble for others. Do not let her win by knowing she is getting to you.


Me: 42
W: 32
Married 7 years together 8.5
S1: 7 S2:7
Bomb #1: 09-16-13
Recon #1: 11/13
A discovered 04-03-2014
W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me
I filed D 12-02-2014
S 05-31-14
Divorced 5-19-16