WAS asked for divorce today.

[25yearsmlc]

I would like you to pray specifically with me for God to protect my wife while I cannot, for Him to speak to her heart and mind, and to speak to my heart and mind as well. Pray for the right people and places and any other means He chooses to touch our lives with His message to help is both grow and learn what it is we need to learn through this. I pray for Him to give me the patience to wait for Him and the ability to let go of the outcome of this situation. I pray that He gives me the confidence I need to make whatever decisions I will need to make in the coming days and that He will teach me to not second guess myself or seek approval from those around me for the things I say and do.

I am seeing the principles of Michelle's teaching make some progress in my situation and I know my wife is also having a tough time with all of this.

I think I really hurt her a bunch along the way, mainly by trying to "show her the right way " to do things, stupid household things which I really don't care about at all and by constantly going down cheese less tunnels and by not realizing that it doesn't matter whether the chicken or the egg came first. By not taking responsibility and by always seeking validation from her and others I have sent, very slowly but very surely, my wife down a terrible road leading away from me and I there also pray for God to show and teach forgiveness and how to forgive to both of us.

I can't even begin to thank all of you for pouring out your hearts and sharing your experiences here on this site. It is a miracle this is even possible.

I see this^^ as a solid insightful post from a good man. Keep this^^ up.
I'm very sorry you are here, although this is a great place to be for a lousy reason.


For the record, I'm not a fan of snooping about OMs, unless you know it's a deal breaker (the opposite of your attitude in my opinion).

But til IF & WHEN this becomes an actual issue, I'll leave it at that.


Also, just so I know, did you and your wife decide against children or were you delaying them?

And what was happening in the marriage that made you say "fine, go ahead and separate"?

Keep on your path of growth and becoming the best YOU that you can become.
So no matter what happens, you'll be better off and yes, happier.


Just so you know, a divorce is a piece of paper declaring a marriage is legally over.

I've had 2 family members divorce, only to remarry their former spouses later.

So yes, it happens.