It's a nightmare. Wake me up 2

[25yearsmlc]

The 2nd day with children has been great too. Yesterday: cooking together, watching TV. D14 is a singer songwriter herself, so we are talking about song-writing, guitars and different guitar tunings from time to time.

I have worked on two things regarding DB on this weekend.
1) In DR you can read the advice to bring up a mental stop sign, whenever you think about your spouse. I have swapped the sign with an annoying buzzer sound. I am a more auditive person.

2) Since I am a nice guy/co-dependent, I came up with some statements, that I am going to read to myself a few times a day. I would really appreciate your thoughts on them. If the grammar or the words should be wrong, just let me know.


- Today I strive for will stand up for myself, like a healthy man, without defensiveness, excuses or explanations

- Today I strive for will set healthy boundaries, to protect my self respect, my honour and my dignity

- Today I strive for will love myself as I am, honouring myself and taking care of my needs and my well-being

- Today I strive for make my own hopes, visions and dreams a priority above the hopes, visions and dreams of others

- Today I strive for will be honest and loving in my communication with others (remember this is ONLY about what YOU can do, and NOT about how others behave or see it).

- Today I strive for will consciously enjoy the good moments of the day and open myself up for the love and approval of others

- Today I strive will exercise choice for accepting, that I have the right to say “Yes”, “No” and “Maybe”

- Today I strive for will ask others for their help, if I need them

- Today I strive for will take steps to making little steps to overcome fear, when it raises its head

- Today I strive for will acknowledge my emotions and deal with them in an adult way

- Today I strive for will accept adults as adults, responsible for their own lives. I will not control them, manipulate them or use them to make me feel better

- Today I strive for accept life as it is and to deal with reality as it is

- Today I strive for [color:#CC0000]will choose risk taking over fear and detach myself from the outcome

I think you can see my point ^^ above, yes? Don't "strive for" so much as just DO IT.

It'll come much faster if you hold yourself to an adult standard b/c that's who you are. (No offense meant).

Make sense?