Agree 100% too that our Toots deserve better, much better after all the work she has been putting in to became a better person.
But this better for Toots may be her WAH. I have seen and hearing so many stories about folks that separate and after some time get back together, even folks that D and remarry.
In the love war, anything and everything is possible.
Michelle is indeed a genius... we do need to feel better about ourselves, so the books tells us to shake things a bit, change out hair, lose weight, start new hobbies, exercise and on and on. As we feel better we start smiling more, being more light spirited. As we go through this path we can see that if our S is not there, that it is not over, we can live a satisfying life. In the process of getting all this knowledge, we are developing ourselves into better individuals.
So we learn a lot of what to do and what not to do, we became more kind, gentle... we become someone only a fool would lose. So, in a way it is a win, win preposition.
Toots are you seeing an IC? If not, maybe you could get a few session only and try to get some of your issues worked out. I am not saying just the M issues. I remember you posted a few days ago about struggling with the "shame" that you don't even know why you feel so much this way.
At the end of the day, we all agree: "Toots deserve someone better"...
