Agree with MrBond on that. You are going to have to accept that your W may NEVER want to admit or discuss an A if she is having one. Even if you never find out and she says she wants to work on the M. Be patient. These things usually have a way of coming out. Work on yourself in the meantime. Try not to focus on her and any affair. The worse thing you can do is let your mind wander and create things based on things you are not positive about.
Thanks for talking some sense in to me pilot. One of the problems with my job is that I have a lot of free time to do nothing but ruminate and play on the internet. I often make up scenarios that are imaginary and over analyze everything. When not at work, I don't have that problem. When there's nothing to do, I need to find something to do. Going to go look for projects.
Cadet-- Roger, loud and clear.
M: 8 years, together 9 M: 41 W: 32 D 4, S 6 ILYBINILWY 2/10/15 2/14/15-2/22/15 Left home 4/5/15 Suspect A, Initiated Sandi's advice from WW thread 4/19/15 W asked for D