This baby DBer is killing it with boundary-setting and making his stance super duper clear to his WAW very early in the sitch. Rubi has his balls alright. This is HOW it's done, people.
Originally Posted By: Rubicon
I also told her that if she used the house phone or the Internet to contact him, I would shut that off too.
She also talked about leaving to go back to her home town, where the OM lives and her family. She said it would be to stay with her parents... But we all know the truth. I told her that she was free to do what she wanted but I wasn't ok with her using one of our family vehicles to go see the OM. I told her that she would need to get money from OM or her family to do that. The money in our accounts is for family needs. I also told her that if she went to see the OM, when she returned, her things would be in bags in the garage, adding that she would no longer be welcome here.
Keep going, Rubi...you're on the right track.
Yes, go ahead and set up a separate checking account as a firewall to the family's finances. I cannot begin to tell you of reading countless horror stories of the WAS cleaning out the accounts to fund their affairs....many in THOUSANDS of Benjamins. You don't want to get benjamined by your wayward wife.
