That's a good idea to talk more with my IC with, Zephyr. I did bring it up with my H last night, and he acknowledged that he thought it might be hard for me to take. He then asked about my plans for the weekend, so I followed his direction and did not get upset. I seem to be coming out of my weeklong spin which is good. I felt good that I spoke for myself, and that I did not have any expectations in his reaction. So his lack of one, minus the validation didn't hurt too much.
Thanks for the help and support in this area, Zephyr!
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out