Newbie seeking some experienced advice

[nick77]

Thank you Train for your reply. I read the thread and will make sure I follow the principles outlined in it. I was just so happy when she said "we don't know what's going to happen" that all I heard was "there's a chance we'll be together again".

I read Sandis thread about LBH and WW as well and need to start following that more closely. It just seems so counter productive though it makes sense.

Can someone advise me what to do with my current dilemma? My son's 7th bday is next week and W bought him a trampoline for the yard and I offered to help my father-in-law put it up while she's at work and his in school. Should I still do it?

And every year on his bday we would take him to dinner wherever he chose and I asked W if we were still going to do that this year. She's working but said she'd meet us wherever when she gets off. Should I cancel that too?