2BHappy - I completely feel for you. I am finding it hard to live in the same house also. I don't know how to act. It is hard to change years of interaction. I too wonder how long to wait for the man/child to return to being a partner rather than a dependent.
H: 48 Me: 47 Married: 19 yrs T: 20 yrs 2 teen-Ds and S H-MLC (started 2012) and H-Unemployed (11/2014) D-Bomb: 2/2015 H left country but hasn't moved out: 7/2015 I filed: 7/2015