As for the kids, this is so new and I think there is a chance for reconciliation, I would rather not tell them at this point. I think W is just trying to find a way to see me and using the kids as an excuse. I could be wrong, and I've been wrong about so much. If she wants to tell them, I'll let her do all the talking.
As for infidelity, I've already prepared myself for that bomb to drop. My heart says no, but my gut says yes. I trust my gut a lot more than my heart. That's why I immediately took Sandi's advice in her WW thread. I even made a word document of most of her comments and have read and re-read it several times to just reenforce what she has stated. I think today I'm going to read it aloud to reenforce it further.
Although I prefer MWD's DBing, I think Homer's book, minus the dating part, actually helps explain the DBing concept better than the DR book. It helped me understand the dynamics a lot better. It actually helped me understand the 37 rules better.
Wife sent more pictures of the kids and said that if we did one thing right, it was the kids. I agreed and said thank you for the pics and left it at that. It's hard being away from the kids so much. After reading your thread, I know you know what I'm talking about. I'm still detaching and it is indeed a roller coaster. I'll feel completely detached and then 10 minutes later, I'll catch myself thinking about her. I've still held strong and have not iniated any contact.
M: 8 years, together 9 M: 41 W: 32 D 4, S 6 ILYBINILWY 2/10/15 2/14/15-2/22/15 Left home 4/5/15 Suspect A, Initiated Sandi's advice from WW thread 4/19/15 W asked for D
