Maybe is there you can start with something bugging you that will be a little less emotional charged for you. It may be a good way to start - being able to be super composed and positive. Ultimately. Is the ring a deal breaker for you...because if it is I understand. If not, then maybe it is something you can just let it go...we need to learn to let things go to not build and harbor resentment.
I am sure you can come up with other behaviors that may be deal breakers that you need to work with your I statements and boundaries to protect yourself and your feeling from continuously being hurt. I have set up an IC meeting for next week to focus on just this topic, what behaviors do I need to not allow To hurt me in my life anymore.
