One of the things that was so upsetting yesterday was that the way the alimony portion was written it was like he was checking the box of "I acknowledge that under the law I have some obligation here" and completely demeaning me personally. He also added a clause intended to control my personal life that I found insulting.
Well tell him to stuff his personal life clause.
Again- does he have lawyers advising him? Because they do tend to word things in a way that is painful but is intended to potentially sway a judge should it come to that. From the day of BD, STBX has totally deferred to me on childcare - I have a lengthy string of texts and emails where he says "whatever you want" and "I will defer to you", and we always kept to the same schedule anyway - so imagine my surprise to get the divorce papers and see this written in the child custody portion "visitiation is currently dictated at the whim of the mother. Petitioner is seeking a 50/50 parenting arrangement in order to provide the children with much needed consistency".
I'm not going to tell you it ins't personal- because it reaches into the most personal parts of our lives. But, there does seem to be a script that these things follow.
Have you talked with your lawyer yet? I don't know all the options in your state - but this sure seems to me like an early step - so don't give up all those dreams yet, ok?
