To Pursue or Not #2

[Arcola]

Mr Bond,
Yes I've read DB. I'm hoping to get to that point where my overall happiness doesn't revolve around my W.

Alpha99
My GAL needs a boost. During the week M - F its okay because I have work so gym during lunch and after work is about it, and sometimes eating out during lunch. On Mon and Tues. I could fit in some after work GAL since I don't have the kids. I know I'm still at a point where I tend to wait thinking "what if W" instead of just prior planning and following through.

I've read some of your recent posts and you seem to be on the steady up with GAL and your overall attitude towards the situation. That's great!

Blogging...
Monday I decided to look at W's Facebook page, and bam! there's a selfie of her to some dude she works with. The caption said something like to my buddy OM3 the king of selfies, hope you're having fun, uhh I mean working hard.

It did get me down seeing this. Now that I'm not down about it, I'm just thinking to myself, "W how can you be so out of it. OM3 is like 24 and no kids. What are you thinking?"

So, since I'm a work in progress, I will pass along this advice...to anyone in the roots of their sitch, please! please! please! do not wait out the affair and think that there won't be another OM or OW.


Today when I was picking up D9 from her after school program OM1 kids are leaving and his youngest son comes up and hugs me. I hug back, patting him on the back. His daughter (friends with my D9) says hello and his oldest hadn't come out yet. It wasn't OM1 picking them up. I'm not sure who it was. I'm guessing it was OM1's ex-wife boyfriend. Anyway, he's parked next to me and I'm walking back to my vehicle with my 4 kids inside and they are going crazy calling, screaming OM1's kids name, twisted all out their booster seats and asking where's OM1. The where's OM1 made me upset, but I calmly told them to settle down and sit straight. After doing so, one of them asked once more about OM1 and I said calmly, but irritated, "I don't really care about OM1." D9 hears this from me and proceeds to say, "Okay guys, daddy doesn't like OM1 and tried to say something to the effect of he wasn't in their life.

Supposedly, OM1 is semi out the picture. However, after hearing D9's comment, knowing that she is just nosy anyway, and not to mention she witnessed me and W arguing a couple of times prior to S, I'm pretty sure she's aware of what's going on. I've asked her before how she felt about the two homes, but she just says its okay. She's one to be chatty so I don't know if she's holding things inside or not, but she appears to be okay. The others too given the situation.