Dating your spouse

[EyeTie]

When my wife first moved out, I did the whole "as a family" thing as often as I could. But it was fake, she didn't want it and knew that I did. So she would push boundaries, pick fights, etc.

This last Easter, I knew she had no where to go, meanwhile I was hosting it at our house (she moved out) and was having family/friends over. It killed me not to invite her here, because I love her and the thought of her sitting in her place, by herself just killed me. BUT I didn't. She called a few times asking about the kids and what not, lingering, hoping for an invite, but I dug my heels in the sand and refused.

In the end, it helped me detach even more. A few months ago, I would have done anything to get her back. Now, I am quite content without her. I went from thinking about her every minute, to several times a day to once a day (if that). The trick is to detach and GAL. I have been preaching the GAL technique here since I started it and it helps. When this all started, I was a step away from suicide, but GAL changed my attitude completely. It also leaves her wondering what got into me and why I am making these changes (although she doesn't believe any of them, but who cares?)