WAS asked for divorce today.

[aNewGuy]

Starsky,

I've been reading through a ton of the situations on this site. Jefe's sounds a lot like mine in many aspects.

I've been reading around here enough that I think I feel comfortable to start blogging. Anyone who wants to chime in, feel free. Here goes!

Some of this situation has caused me to wonder if I even want to try and save this marriage. Then I remember how very loving a marriage it's been for the first three years, and I love my wife just so very much!!

She filed for D on Wednesday. I agreed to meet her at lawyer's office. Should not have done that, just suffice it to say I had stupidly agreed to not fight her and somehow that led to me meeting her at her lawyers office. She is asking for nothing in the divorce as we split our assets already, so it was uneventful.

So the only parking spot available at lawyers office was right next to w. When we left, a conversation started. It was quite cordial. I eventually said I had to leave to get breakfast before work, she asked if she could join me. I said yes, we talked about no R stuff, just random odds and ends about current daily life.

It was nice.

So I had unfriended her new group of friends on FB and apparently they found out. I normally dont give any attention to FB but for some reason that action was on my spirit and so i took it. Today I get to work and w won't even look at me, which is unusual. Toward the end of the day she emails me and says the d papers are ready at the lawyers office. I replied simply I won't be going back there, she needs to have them served on me.

This angered her and when she asked why, I simply told her it was because it didn't feel right. She proceeded to give me one of my favorite snacks and then sent me a long raging text message. I replied to her text calmly and lovingly.

I'm just focused on being patient and kind, and my "spew jacket" has become much thicker.

I'm so thankful for this online group of people. My wife and I invited Christ into our marriage from the beginning but we both got selfish somewhere along the way.

Starsky and Jefe, if you see this I just want you to know both of your stories are inspirational. When your wife's came back saying that God was speaking to them loudly - seeing that alone helped me realize that He is very much aware of my situation as well. My bride and I both need your prayers. I'm older than her and really feel I just beat her down slowly with all of the "fixing" I tried to do and perfectionism i'd perfected. Wow if I had only known of all this information (db/Dr/this online community) the day we got married I could have seen how to really show her I love her. I wish I had been a far better husband. I need to become a better man even if she doesn't return.