Pyrite: Eye of the storm?

[Pyrite]

Tough spot. I personally wouldn't be satisfied with that arrangement and would probably say something like (ccing mediator):

"We're making decisions that will be very important for our family's future. We've agreed to try the route of mediation as it's never ideal to turn over control of those decisions to a third party such as the courts. That said, for mediation to continue to be a viable option for me I would need to see us improve in our communication. This would mean getting responses to the emails I've sent and having replies phrased with a respectful tone. I'm open to feedback on what you may need from me to make this more effective as well. This is an emotional time but I'm still willing to set those feelings aside for now as we work together for our children's best interest."

i have said this, but i will try CC the mediators well. Not that it make a difference. She admitted the other night she doesn't look at my emails. Until ~6 weeks ago, amongst the email were R talk (by me). that dwindled down over time, to zero.

her complaint then was that my emails belong in a "dear diary" and she doesn't want to hear it. so i ended it.

I used to email 2-3 times a week out of necessity that a bill, mortgage needed her 1/2 share contribution.

her complaint then was that my emails were too hard to understand. I showed other ppl, including 3rd parties as I thought maybe I was going crazy. every time, they read the emails, sms and queried which part doesn't she understand. SMS are worse. she replies and i think she has understood, and that is her answer. and then she replies a 2nd time with something that implies she doesn't understand at all

2-3 weeks ago I stopped even doing that. the mortgage is in arrears, the bills aren't paid.

she only wants verbal communication, but so far that hasn't worked at all. in 4 phone calls and a voice message she just yelled at me, for crazy things (i was paying too much attention to the kids and thats why they miss me). that's fine. i understand she is angry. i made her angry. in all 3 phone calls i was 1st- calm, 2nd-silent, 3-rd silent, 4th - calm and validating. its OK that she is angry and angry at me. I am fine with that. BUT we need to get things sorted. thats why I've given up, I'm not in a hurry to move or get D. I'll let her drive and if I have too enrol D4 in local school because she hasn't got around to it. M-I-L also instructed me to do this as she is aware of how W is avoiding everything.