"She HAS always misinterpreted things, and bottles them up. Her Mum says she's been like that since a small child. I dont think I have contributed to that, just now I am definitely not on the assumed safe side. I am on the opposite."
There you go again. Critisizing. Judging. Here is my 2x4. Your STBX has realized what you have been doing to her all these past years and now wants out. Yes, she figured you out. Your greatest fear realized.
I dont' know how to get through to you. Your comments about how she is like this (absolute critical judgement), your statements on accomplishments get me thinking that you just might be a narcissist.
It is not too late to change. You are clearly an intelligent guy and you have self knowledge to do so. But I think your 180 is to seek professional advice on just how critical your comments are.
