Pyrite: Eye of the storm?

[Pyrite]

i love you guys - even though it seems most of the time you 2*4-ing me.

She HAS always misinterpreted things, and bottles them up. Her Mum says she's been like that since a small child. I dont think I have contributed to that, just now I am definitely not on the assumed safe side. I am on the opposite.

I agree I am am MMMMMMMMM more responsible for this than her.

I like the 100% compromise perspective. I am willing to do that without any concession from her (except OM maybe). The issues that lead to me "changing my tune" towards her need to disscussed - this is why I am so pessimistic maybe, am I really such a low priority. if she doesn't love me, or in love with, then isn't it over.

im not wanting to control her back. Honestly, reading other posts, I was not so controlling of her. certainly not in the begining. After her brief period of leaving a few years into the R I did get scared that she would leave again, and I can see how I was controlling to keep her in the R, but not to do my bidding so to speak. BUT for the past few years I have noticeably made her responsible for making me happy and punishing her when she didn't. you could argue that I always had her in this position, but there was no need to punish her because she never failed.

i have to learn to STFU in general!