And Mr. Bond is 100% correct. If you're using DB as a strategy to control her back, you are manipulative. If you let go of the death grip, let her go, and focus on making yourself a better man, that is growth.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15