Wayward Wife and the Way of LRT

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M

"I realized that I can be argumentative and when I argue, I did it to win. I realized that I wasn't always super supportive with my W's career aspirations. I realized I wasn't helpful with the day to day housework. I realized that I spent all of my free time with our family but none cultivating our M. I realized I was neglectful of my W's basic needs to feel loved, valued, and cherished. I realized that I had lost interest in pursuits that I valued and made me attractive to W."

All of these "realizations" are nice, but what ACTIONS have you taken to change them? If you read the books, you should know that you need that list to follow as a plan of action. If you don't, then all of your exposure will be for nothing.

What is your list?

I wanted to reply now to Mrbond now that I've had some time to reflect...

*I don't want to be controlling in my relationships
-stop trying to make my point at expense of hearing other's voice
-stop saying the same thing over and over
-will talk less and listen more
-will just let go
-will ask and listen for other's input

*I want to be less critical of others
-stop analyzing other's words/actions looking for mistakes
-will be on the lookout for positivity
-will go out of my way to express appreciation
-will focus on small victories

*I want to pursue more personal goals and hobbies
-will make a daily effort to do something interesting or exciting
-will spend more time with others who stimulate me
-will spend more time doing things out of my comfort zone

*I want to show more support for orher's achievements and aspirations
-will show genuine interest in other's goals and successes
-will ask others for updates on said goals and successes
-will volunteer my time to allow other to work towards achieving these items