Newbie seeking some experienced advice

[nick77]

Thank you both for replying. I do see what worked and am committed to sticking to it. I'm just amazed that it worked so fast. We've been going through it for 2 years and the last 2-3 weeks were very ugly. And to see positive results in less than 24 hours? That's why I wonder if this is all just wishful thinking.

Starsky,
I do believe she is still in contact with the other man but I'm not asking about it.

Train,
I'd love to hear a females perspective on what happened and how I should move forward. I don't want to do something to sabotage what progress has been made.