MY STORY IS UGLY BUT AT LEAST IM LEARNING

[parker7]

Controlled work schedule, asked her to limit how much OT and extra hours she worked, tried to keep her home as much as I could, controlled who she hung out with, where she went, gave guilt trips, said harsh things to accomplish this, controlled where we went, what we did together.

I am not getting involved at all in her personal life. I am not limiting who she hangs with what she is doing. I am not saying one word even when I would have objected in the past to who she is going out with and where she is going. Its her life and I should have realized that long ago. I have not said a word about her increased work schedule, limited time with her son, which means i get to be with him more (not all bad).

I am picking up the slack even more around the house, laundry, cleaning, running errands. With her increased work hours I have stepped it up around the house more.

I am throwing in compliments one a day or one every other day, words of affirmation directly related to her hard work or how she cares for our son, involvement at our sons school. DB coach said don't go overboard, pull back?

I lamented a ton the first 6 weeks and then at the marriage intensive we went to 2 weeks ago. So I'm giving lots of space. Not initiating convo, hello's, gnight's, being upbeat.