Dear friends, I would love to get some advice on my situation.

I have been to the movies with S10. I have picked him up at home and brought him back. I said "Hello" to D14 and S16 and left. Since that moment I feel sad and empty. They continue their family life without me. I know it is self pity, but I was close to tears.
I am pondering on the idea of moving back into the house. Why do I have to leave, if she is the one with the problem? If she can't stay in my presence, she can leave the house. Why am I the one who looses the everyday contact with the children and lives in a sh***thole?

I might sound like a jerk, but this feels unjust to me. Am I a lame duck, because I have left the house and did not insist on her leaving? If I move back, would she be reminded of the husband she hates? Would it make things worse?
Maybe I would would have a tiny victory, but would loose the battle.



Last edited by koalada; 04/16/15 06:28 PM.
Me 46
W 45
S16 D14 S10
M 20 yrs in June T22
12/14 sleeping in different rooms
01/07/15 she said she wants a separation
02/26/15 I moved out