That preachy crap that I do is something I have been working on and been trying to resist, one of the 180s I am in the process working on. One of my bad habits has always been trying to fix things in the past - everyday I tell myself outloud "do not try and fix things or sound like you know better."
I did thank her for it, failed to mention that in the post. I did and let her know how appreciative I am.
Time will tell with her and I. She seems to understand that it will take time, patience and work.